Perhaps you’ve been alarmed, as we have, by articles noting that divorce rates tend to be higher among couples with children on the spectrum. That’s alleged, actually, for parents of children with other special needs, such as ADHD (which happens to often be linked to autism) as well. Alarming though these reports may be, they’re not always accurate. It’s reassuring to know that some theories floating out there are myth. They don’t have to be true. And they don’t have to happen to you.
If divorce has happened to you, we want to help bolster you. Single parents have a tough job. Add a special needs child to the mix, and we have no idea how they do it. But we do know that somewhere, somehow there are solutions and answers. There’s support: for you and your child.
Overall, we have a strong marriage, but we have also struggled as a couple. We have let down our guard at times and not been vigilant in doing some key things necessary to strengthening us as man and wife. We are working to do better. We love one another, and we love our boys. We’ll do anything to keep our family unit whole. We are deeply committed to our religion and covenants we made to be a forever family.
In our situation, the struggles of autism haven’t been the biggest factors to weaken our family unity. Spending too much time with electronics, traveling away from home for work (thankfully now resolved), letting other priorities top the list, infrequent religious temple attendance, and not setting aside constructive family time and date nights have crippled us. Perhaps other families and couples can relate. Recently, we have vowed to redouble our efforts to strengthen our relationship as a couple and to fortify our family.
Let’s come together to strengthen our families. Whether you are married or not, you matter and your family needs you. Children with autism and special needs need strong families. We can help one another re-establish our priorities.
How do you as a couple stay strong? How do you prioritize as a single parent?
What does your family enjoy doing together?